Wednesday, September 20, 2017

My Best Friend's Wedding

Last Friday one of my best friends got married!!! The first of Charlie's Angels to get married lol 😂 It was a wonderful day and I'm still reminiscing about it until now. I have never actually understood when people say they are very happy and honoured to be there on someone's wedding day, especially the bridesmaids, considering there are an awful lot of work to do, but now I actually understand.

It was a lot of work to do, I had to prepare the booklets, place cards, pack whatever the bride might need on the day, make sure I will be healthy and can walk on her wedding day (believe me, there was a lot of incidents leading to her wedding day which involved my legs and feet, I had to actually stop going out during lunch to avoid anymore injuries), make sure the bride remembers her vow, learning the steps to walk down the aisle, outsourcing my bridesmaid's duty *cough cough*, etc.

And on the day too! I had to wake up at 6 to have make up and hair done. When my make up done, and make up artist was doing Eva's - with messy hair rollers on my head - I had to do errands and helped the photographer setting up her wedding dress for photos, making tea or getting drink for everyone who needed it, find the stuffs someone needs, clear up the place and pack-up, putting on her veil, and so on. 6 AM to 1 PM literally went in a blink of an eye.

But I was happy to be there. I'm glad I was there and saw the day unfolded. I didn't even mind at all when she was stressing out and started to get cranky. I was genuinely happy to help and be there for her.

Everything went smoothly. We were a bit late for church (though no fault of the bridal party. Her brother went to get take away in Kingsford!!! -_-). But other than that, we were pretty on time and no drama happened on the day. She looked happy, pretty and radiant. Her friends and colleagues put in effort to come to the mass, so it was like a mini reunion. She looked very very happy. Her husband too.

Wedding photos were a bit short, but she's still got over 1000 photos of the day, and they are all lovely photos. The bridesmaids were pretty too *cough cough* 😂

After photoshoots, we went back to hotel for her make up touch up and tea ceremony. The bridesmaids and bridesmaids little helpers 😂 set up the place cards and bonbonieres, and finally could sit for a bit. Then, tea ceremony. I completely forgot about that, and that bride and groom would need people to help with pouring tea etc. This time, I was ready with tissues!! And yep, she needed it big time this time. FYI, I was ready with tissue even at the church, but I wasn't sure if I was allowed to step back to my seat and get it 😐 next time I become a bridesmaid, I would know 😆.

Then, welcoming the guests and dinner time!! You know what? When we were preparing the flowers, cakes, place cards, etc, we didn't really plan on a color scheme or design matching. But in that reception hall, everything worked! The colour was all in sync and even the place cards design and pattern matched the room! It's amazing sometimes how things somehow works perfectly well at the end.

I was seated at the table right in front of the bridal table with our uni friends. It was like reunion and we all had fun joking around. It's always sad remembering how time goes on and life gets in the way and we can't be just like we all were in uni, seeing each other every single day till we were bored. However, things like this brings us back together and reminds me of the good old times, and just how lucky we are to meet each others and be part of one of our happiest time.

I did not give a speech. The bride and groom didn't ask me or Eva to give a speech *phewwwwww... Thank God for that XD the best man and the groom did though. The bride looked teary when she heard her husband's speech. It was moving. Eva and me were teary as well. The best man speech was funny to begin with, but then quite moving at the end too. Our friends at our table kept jokingly asking me to make a speech -_-

After that was cutting the wedding cake. The cake was good BTW and smelled SO GOOD! When we opened the box, a delicious aroma straight away comes out. And when they were put up on the stand, we could smell the nice aroma even from 3 meters away! Our gang then made some noises with our forks and wine glasses asking for a kiss 😆 and as I have guessed, those new husband and wife didn't know that those glass noises meant something! 😐 the MC had to explain to them what it meant 😕 then they kissed 😆 (I was worried the bride would scold us for that, but luckily no haha).

Bouquet throwing was next. All the single ladies were asked to come up to catch the bouquet. I have always thought that it's for single guys and girls. In Indonesia, usually guys come up too and gahar-ly catch the bouquet. I've seen bouquets broke into pieces and they had to see who got the biggest piece of the bouquet to declare the winner 😐

There were only about 7 single ladies in total. FYI, the bride had told me and Eva multiple times, that any one of us MUST catch the bouquet. It is a MUST. She didn't care how, but one of us must catch it (the bouquet was a fake, so she was worried other girl would catch it and be like, Huh? Fake?). So, I straight away went to the center, right behind her. She looked back a couple of times trying to measure, and then she threw. Usually I never put any effort catching it, but this time I went forward, and reach out to catch it. I got it!!! Hip hip hoorayyyyyy 😆😆 🎉🎉 🎊🎊 when the bride turned around and saw me with the bouquet, she broke into a big smile and straight away came over to hug me 😆😆😆

Then the bride and groom had their first dance together. It actually looked alright, considering they can't dance. And for the fact that the bride couldn't move much in her big dress. They only moved left and right together, but they looked lovely. Eva told me to look at the bride's father, he was smiling a little gentle smile, I can't describe it, calm, peaceful, content, glad, serene, kinda smile? Maybe this is the type of smile, the fathers of the bride have when their daughters get married. We hoped it was captured in a photo.

Then you know what? After that, the MC announced, "Would the groomsmen and bridesmaids join the bride and groom on the dance floor please?". "WHAT??? I wasn't told of this??!! Damnnnnnn". Then the best man came up to me and asked me to dance, for the bride and groom he said. I didn't have a choice, did I?

But turned out it wasn't thaaaaaaat bad. Of course we didn't dance, it was just moving left, right, backwards, and forward. But I was surprised on how easy it was. I always wonder, how do you know you're both going left, or right, or forward, or backward? But I just knew, I just followed his lead. And about following his lead too, I watched a lot of dancing competition show on TV, and I didn't get when they said "follow his lead", how would you feel that? I guess you just feel it.

After that it was just photo and selfie sessions and chatting etc. It was a fun wedding. I guess on Oz weddings, you get to spend more time with the newly weds compared to Indonesian weddings. I hardly speak to the couple on that night usually.

The party was over around 11. We packed up our stuff, took them to their hotel room, get changed, helped Helen loosen her dress and said good byes.

The whole wedding preparations up to the wedding day was full of surprises, bad luck and also good luck. The bride was made redundant a month before the wedding, she had to cancel and rebook hair dresser so many times, her make up artist had some attitudes, our make up artist went back to Indo so delaying my trial, I fell in the middle of the street while jaywalking and injured my knee, plus rolling on that ankle few days after, and finally her make up artist got stranded in Melbourne due to strong wind in Sydney the day before her wedding and her assistant had to do her morning make up instead.

The good luck was quite interesting too. When I was trying to hire a room to do bridesmaids make up, I was given a cheaper quote for the room! So, Helen rebooked the apartment and cancelled the old one. And when I checked in, the guy said, "Your booking is 3 bedrooms apartment for 1 night". I thought I heard it wrong, and just whatever. Plus when I signed the paper, the price was right and it was written "1 bedroom". But when we got to the room, it was a 3 bedrooms apartment!!!! Me and Eva were thrilled and straight away called Helen and her hubby asking if this is what she booked? Turned out it wasn't, she only booked 1 bedroom, but she asked for higher level, so it seems that we were upgraded 😆😆😆😆

The luck seemed to run even until midnight of her wedding day. After saying good byes, we went downstairs and wanted to call uber. But we just realised, since it was Friday night, there would be a 1.4x surcharge. The estimate price to go home was $78-112, then it would be like $150?????!!!!!

We were still thinking of what to do, when an old guy next to us asked where we were going. It turned out that he was an uber driver who accidentally just uninstalled his uber app! So he was there for half hour trying to download the app using the hotel Wi-Fi, but still not successful! Long story short, he asked me how much was the estimate, and I said $70 plus surcharge. Then he told us to wait till he's downloaded the app and he would take us home, he'll scrap the surcharge. At the end, he still couldn't download it, and just said, "Let's go, you can pay me with cash or credit card. It's fine. "

So that's how we got a cheap ride even cheaper than uber on a Friday night 😐 Life is funny sometimes, don't you think? Well, his gps set wrong starting point, so we went over the harbour bridge just to get back to our starting point again, but we got home on an Uber black. And we heard Gary's stories about how he used to own a business but then crashed during GFC. How his ex-driver persuaded him to drive after he's lost everything and ended up loving it and still doing it until now. Life is indeed funny. Now he earns as much as before, driving.

We got home around 1, get changed and everything. We were suddenly starving, so snacked a bit, had tea and chatted before going to bed.

It was a very good day indeed. Happy Wedding Helen and Hubby!! 😘 I wish you both a lifelong of great marriage together. I know happily ever after doesn't exist, but as long as you're there for each other, to annoy and please each other, I think that's happiness. Please be patient to my BFF, I know she can be stubborn sometimes 😆 I've seen it during our uni days 😂

Friday, September 1, 2017

My First Thoughts on Barefoot Investor

I'm reading Barefoot Investor now. Its actually againsts my personal rule of not reading personal help books in an attempt to not brainwash myself. Those books sound really scary you know, seems like they can turn you into something completely different. I blame The Secrets to be exact.

But anyway, my colleague Barbie mentioned it to me. Barbie thought I was the one who recommended it last time, but no, it was my first time hearing it. I said to Barbie, I don't read those kind of books. Which Barbie replied, "That's a pity". This is 1 of the reason why I don't like Barbie. The i-know-everything-and-participate-in-anything act. Why should you pity me? I don't read those doesn't mean I don't do things they tell you to do in those books? I just read the early chapters, and you know what? I've done the first steps years ago. I can skip the first Barefoot Date yayy

I didn't plan to read this book really. But after going into library a couple of times last month and seeing the book for the 2nd time in Fast Loan section, I thought, alright, I will read it. The cheapskate/tightarse/thrifty/wanna-be-rich-and-retire-early part of me is a bit intrigued and want to know if there is something I can take out of it. Even if it makes me richer just by $50, it's still free money right? And it's actually written by an Australian, so it is relevant to me. And it's not thick, I should be able to finish it in a week. And, the way it's written is just like the way I write huahhahaha... Can get something unrelated tangled up to make a point lol XD

The first step is to make zero fee savings account and separate accounts for emergency and daily. Checked. Did that years ago and got all those free money for opening up accounts. Emergency... I do have an account, but it's really empty and I don't usually need it as I'm not the type who splurges or accidentally spends all my money in my daily account.

Second step, setting up high interests accounts. Did that years ago and now with a mortgage, my mortgage interests are higher than the highest savings account interests. So nope, not relevant anymore.

Third, superannuation. He's saying to ditch Self managed funds. But I haven't read all the chapters. We'll see.. I know I have investments going on there which is not bad at all, but I did think to change it to be more risky one. I will keep on reading.

Thursday, August 17, 2017

A Condemning Society

The other day I saw a comic made by sporean comic writer that tells a story about a youngster who scolds an elderly in a food court. A passerby records a video of it and uploads it onto social media. As a result, a lot of people see and share it and people starts to condemn and verbally abuse her on social media. Not only that, people also gives her death stare and purposely bumped her on the street. Because of it, she's now terrified to go out.

This morning, I saw another comic made by Indonesian comic writer. The story was about a guy riding a motorcycle without wearing a helmet. A police stops her and wants to issue a fine. The biker slaps the police on the head and says, "You dare? I'm in the army! You can't fine me!". A passerby records it and upload it to social media. The head of the army then catches the guy and hands him over to the police.

When I saw the first comic, I felt sorry for the girl. She's still wrong, but she didn't deserve to be treated like that. Not only online, she was abused in real life by people she didn't know too. And she isn't even a murderer.

The second one though, I think was used appropriately. In Indonesian society, some people still believe they are above the law and can just walk their way out of problem either just saying they have certain position, or by bribing.

Both were punished in the end, however, I believe the biker wouldn't have been abused in real life. I think people treated her that way because she was easier to bully. The biker could easily reports anyone bullying him on the street for going against an officer while she can't?

Another thing is, the biker was handed over to police, that will shut people up. But then again, he was breaking the law in the first place. In the girl's case, it was about manners. She didn't break any law. She can't be handed over to police. The most she can do is apologise, and based on the comments on the comic, she already did. But that's not enough and people still abuse her.

In today's society, or maybe I should say even before, people constantly judge other people. Nowadays is more obvious though. Through social media, people are turning into keyboard warriors and condemn others every single second. I might be considered one of them too, I guess, since I'm talking about them now.

The other day there was a post on facebook about a mum who ear pierced her baby daughter. A lot of women strongly condemned her for doing so by saying she has no right to her body, it's cruelty against children, she's hurting the baby just for fashion, and so on. It was bad. Of course, there were other women who came to her defence and said it's better to be done when she's little so her mum could take care of it, they were earpierced when they were babies too and they are OK with it, it doesn't hurt that much, she won't remember it, and so on.

Some even said they were grateful to have theirs done when they were babies. They saw how their friends had ears pierced during teenagers and saw what they had to go through with the infection etc. I'm also one of those babies, my mum pierced my ears when I was 1 or 2 months old. Even then, she regretted it. Saying she had to care for me myself. Next time she gave birth, she asked the hospital to pierce their ears on Day 2.

But yeah, the opposition group is pretty strong. It was like they were condemning a thief.

Society is really weird nowadays... Few weeks ago, a guy was shot by police for holding a florist hostage with scissors and broken bottle for who knows why. I think he had mental issues. Then, people started critiquing the police for shooting him dead. Even though he already hurt the florist' neck!

I thought people would have learned from Lindt Cafe incident 2 years ago. Back then, the police didn't want to have casualties and didn't barge in until they heard shots, as the result 2 people died. Back then, the police were blamed for holding back. And now they didn't hold back, but are still blamed.

It's a weird world we live in 😕

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Similar Different Fate - Part 2

One day 3 of us were shopping at Broadway, then Eva went to buy something at Go-Lo. When she returned, she told me and the other bestie the Go-Lo was looking for people for stock take. My response was, "What's stock take?". Neither of them knew what stock take meant either. But even so, I went and put down my details. Eva didn't, because she was going on holiday soon, but the other one did.

Few days after, I received a phone call telling me I got the job. The other friend didn't get it. It was funny, considering she put down her name right after mine, either I was the last person required, or they thought her one was a prank as we put same birthday. That time, I still didn't know what stock take was 😂

So I went, and turned out it was just a one day job to count the stocks in hand. No interview what so ever as it was just that. I was a bit disappointed, but at least I earned money right? It was a long job, I finished at 10. The manager told us, if we didnt mind, he'd pass our details to the other stores just incase they need people. Other store did call me, and I even managed to get the other friend to come work too.

Probably a week after, I received a call from that manager, saying he couldn't find my forms, did I fill them out? I said yes. He said he'd keep searching and would call me if he couldn't find them. Few days after, his phone call woke me up. Sleepily I picked up, and he asked me if I was looking for a job? I said yes, I was. Then he said he needed some casuals and would I be interested? Oh hell I was! He asked me to come in to chat, and I was officially hired 😊

OK, from then on, I became busy. I didn't work over my 20 hours limit, but enough to get me busy. In addition, I got another 1 morning a week handing free paper job. I followed rules closely to the t and made sure I didn't work more than 20 hours. Therefore, a lot of times I had to drop my shifts. Same with exam period, I'd be asking for a week off to study (though the most I got was few days off 😕 After few days off, my manager would call up saying the other girl was sick, could you please come? So I couldn't say no and went to work).

This other bestie however, would be the one asking for more shifts and didn't ask for days off to study. She'd burn the midnight oil to study rather than taking days off work. There was once she had to fake a sickie on an exam day because she didn't finish her study.

Do you see the pattern between me and her now?

Even after uni, she went straight into job hunting while I was scared as hell and didn't apply for anything until 6 months after graduation. Even that, was forced.

She found a full time job pretty soon after graduation. But she still kept her Coles as second job for weekends and sometimes night shifts.

I continued with Go-Lo and 2 mornings handing free papers, then I got a part-time programming job (3 days a week). I kept that up until I changed job 1.5 years after. This time, it's a full time job. However, I still kept my Go-Lo job (around this time, the missing money incident occurred) for a few months for the weekend, and then moved to a souvenir store.

I honestly only planned to stay for a couple of months in that souvenir store. I joined, just because I was invited by the last manager of Go-Lo and curiosity. However, not long after that, my sisters graduated and couldn't find a job. It was GFC again. I had to keep 2 jobs to cover all of our expenses. My parents could support us, of course. But my dad was having depression, asking for money would just add up to his depression. If he's depressed and asked me all those questions, it would stress me out, so it was easier to just earn as much money as I could.

So yeah, if I think about it, me and my friend have pretty similar journey of life. However, in my case, it was not my choice. I don't know if it was luck, coincidence, or just fate. In her case, she chose to do so. It's in her nature to strive and earn money. Back then in uni, if she didn't get shifts for a week, she'd freak out and chasing her manager. For me, I'd just calculate to see if I can survive from last week's pay and I'd be content. I was sure too that someone would call in sick and I'd be called to work. If not, then I could relax. Mind you, her parents could support her too.

I was born at night, which makes me a night rat. They said night rats fate is tiring. It's the time when they need to go out and find food while everyone else is asleep. It's true in my case. I believe my friend was born during day time, and according to the horoscope, she should be the happy rat, sleeping in after eating all the food she's found.