Picture Perfect

Last night I was flicking through the channels and came across this TV show on SBS (PS: I probably only watch SBS like few times a year. It's a pretty boring channel to me). Anyway, what caught my interest was, I was 98% sure the girl who was talking was an Indo, AND she was talking about her flat nose. I was so sure then she was Indo. Later on they showed her name, and yep, Indo 😆

Anyway, she was saying how everybody was always commenting about her flat nose and they started to touch her nose a lot. Then, her mum started pinning a clothes peg on her nose everyday after school in an attempt to lengthen it.

I can't remember what the host asked her after, but she replied, saying that beauty in Indonesia is related to financial security. There's this perception that if you're pretty, then you will have good financial in the future. I. E. Marrying a rich guy. She said, even her mum was telling her when she was in school, "You have to do well in your studies, because... You know.... ". Which she responded, "Yes, mum, I know. I won't be marrying a rich guy". And her mum would be, "Yeah... He he he... "

The show was called Insight, and the topic was Picture Perfect. It was pretty much talking about plastic cosmetic surgery to young people. It's an Australian show and the audience were a mixed of races of young people, both females and males who live in Australia. What made them do it, and would there be anything that could prevent them to do it?

This girl hasn't had any cosmetic surgery, but she believes that if she had one to lengthen her nose, then she would be very happy. She said, once she went to South Korea, and a random girl said to her, "I think you need a plastic surgery". She took out her tablet, took her photo and asked which part she wanted changed if she had surgery, and she said nose. Then the girl cut a nose out of her favorite actress and put it on her photo to replace her nose. She said it looked weird, but she was happy and excited about it.

The host then asked her, would there be anything that can make you change your mind about how you look? To not considering plastic surgery? Her answer made me laugh, but also made me wince. Her answer was, "Yeah.. If I don't go back to my home country. If I just stay here".

She said that everytime she went back to Indonesia, their first comments would be, "You're getting fat! " or "You're getting uglier! ". They didn't ask her how she was going or how was her study, they commented on her look or body.

When I heard that, I was laughing. I wasn't laughing at her, but because I was happy that it isn't only me who receives those comments when I go home. I still remember the first comment my 11 years old cousin said to me when I first saw her last time I went back home, I was in a formal dress about to attend a wedding reception all dressed up and with make up on, she said, "Big sister, your tummy is so big!" -___-" really? You haven't seen me in a year and that's your first greeting to me? And I remember my trip to Bali with the whole family, and there was once in the car ride that my uncle said to me repeatedly that I was fat. FYI, I wore size 8 or 10 back then. For sure I wasn't skinny, but I wasn't fat. For the whole ride, I was thinking of ways to change to my other uncle's car (and whatsapping my oz colleagues about it. To which she horrifyingly replied "YOU ARE NOT FAT!!!!" The good thing is, living in Sydney makes my skin color go fairer. So most of the time I was complimented on my skin color.

But yeah, if an 11 years old girl could comment on my tummy the first time we met after a year, no wonder the adults can say negative comments about how people look without batting an eyelash. If their comment is legit, I. E. The person is really fat and needs to lose some weight then it's OK. It's good for them. But if they are just not crazily skinny or not crazily pretty, then don't say they're fat or ugly.

But all these do happen back home. And other countries of course. When I go home, on every first meetings with extended family, I'd be toughen up my heart and skin a bit and be worried about what they would comment on. Luckily, living in Australia does give me that "I don't give a damn" or "whatever" attitude. So even though I do get pissed off listening to those, it doesn't make me hate how I look. And plus, size 8 or 10 is really not fat man!!! 👊👊👊

Sacrifices and Taking Things for Granted

My dad is going back home this Saturday. I never have told my parents, but every time they are here, at the last week of the stay I try not to go out and have dinner at home.

I guess if I say it directly to them, they might feel happy. People are always happy when they know other people are making sacrifices for their sake or go out of their way for them.

It reminds me of few years ago when I had my bestie still in Australia. Back then I used to work on the weekends, so I couldn't hang out much. She was always out during weekends with friends. There were times when she went out without asking me to join because she thought I was working, or because she just didn't think of it, or simply because there was no more space in her flatmate's car. Sometimes she went to restaurants I had been craving to go too, and places I also wanted to go.

Every time that happened, I got upset and we had a fight or cold war (Thanks to Facebook, I got to know where she went all those time. Now that I think about it, some of those fights wouldn't have happened if Facebook didn't exist :/) She was stubborn and I was sensitive. The cycle went on and on, even until I quit my weekend job. I still am a sensitive person, but after the last few years I realise that nothing really last forever. So don't waste your time and energy to fight, they are going to leave soon anyway. It is not worth fighting for.

But back then, I wanted to make a point. I guess I wanted myself heard, that she knew that it was making me upset. I didn't want that one day she would say, "I didn't know you were upset. You should have said something". Well.. not that I could keep it to myself anyway, I am after all a very expressive person and can't hide my emotion at all. I guess, I wanted to make sure that I wasn't taken for granted.

Nobody likes to be taken for granted, right?

Another Random Blabbering Post

It's COLDDDDD!! When will spring come? I really can't wait!

For the past few years, winter in Sydney has been pretty warm. My home is cold last year too, but going to work, going out for lunch etc wasn't that cold. This year it seems like the coldness has been saved for 3 years and released all at once.

On another note, it's August already! It is scary how fast time flies. I always wonder if Earth rotates faster and faster as it ages. But then again, how come the clocks all know about it and adjust their ticking to it? Could they be communicating somehow? I hope they don't, coz that means time has always been the same and I just have more things to do compared to before and I can slow it down if I cut down the list of things I want or need to do.

My mum went home yesterday. So only dad is still here in Sydney. I wonder how we go. I wonder if he will attempt cooking XD will he do some of the housework? I don't really mind, as long as he doesn't complain we don't clean it up enough. We're pretty relaxed on this, especially with the weather this cold, it's good enough I manage to drag myself out of my blanket every morning.

Wallace Huo and Ruby Lin were married yesterday in Bali. I told my bestie, "You should have gone to the wedding venue pretending to be a reporter! You would have got a Hong bao filled with 660 yuan and we can divide among us two" lol XD She laughingly said, "I should have! And I bet if you were working in that venue, you would be begging to work on their wedding day!". That's true, I would have PAID to be working on that day lol. There goes my actor crush lol, but I'm actually genuinely happy with this pair. Both are my favorite actor and actress and both seem nice. And both are past marriageable age. I'm always happy when a couple are both of older age (or should I say mature?), jd ngga ambil pasaran orang laen lol. But I might change my actor crush to Hu Ge now that Wallace is now married? XD just kidding :P

Have a good day!

I Was Sick Last Week

Enak ya bobo 8 jam on weekdays XD this is one of my rambling post by the way. I don't know if there would be any point in this one lol

I was sick last week. To be exact it was more than a week. It started on Fri the week before, I woke up with really really dry throat. I thought, it's definitely going to be a cough for sure. And yep, I started coughing and had sore throat too because of it. It wasn't that bad that day, I even joked to Crown Prince when he asked me if I was getting sick. I said dunno, but I hope it comes on Monday, not on my weekend! And don't tell Superexcited! He was like yeah yeah sure, that's human nature, I understand ;)

That night was Turkieto's last night in Sydney, so we went to have dinner together. The plan was hotpot since it was freaking cold! But since the restaurant we went in only had hotpot buffet, and it was $40 a head!!! What the heck??? Hot pot $40 a head is really a rip of!! So we changed the plan and had the spicy stir fry wok. That is still spicy. We also ordered some spicy beef and tribes slices cold dish and some grilled lamb skewers. That night I was ok.

Saturday and Sunday the cough got worse. I mostly stayed home, keep warm, and watched what I ate. But on Sunday night it really was bad. My mum nagged me not to go to work on Monday.

I was sick, yes. But the problem is, I don't get sick often. I also didn't have a fever. So apart from coughing my throat out, I actually felt fine. But yeah with that kind of cough, people on the train surely will give me death stare :l what I mean is, kl itu hari2 biasa, kayanya sih aku bakalan masuk senennya. Tp secara pas itu Jumat aku lg super bete sm kantorrrrr (refer ke post sebelonnya), so alhasil aku keukeuh mau di rumah aja hari senen *peace sign* mamaku jg, dia ngotot gitu suru aku gak masuk, pdhl biasanya sih terserah2 aja. Yah, dia jg bete abis kuceritain soalnya hahahahhaa.... Now u know where I got my character right? :P

I went to GP on Monday. I woke up like 5 times last night coz of the cough. Damn oz doctor, soooooooooo not wanting to give patients medicine unless it's really really bad! He said I've got cold and there's nothing he could prescribe me with. He said it was viral and antibiotics won't work. Just have some lozenges and sip lemon water every 10 minutes. I think my jaw must have dropped, coz he looked at me and said "I'm so sorry..." And he only gave me 1 day medical certificate -_-

At the end of the day the cough was the same and I got runny/blocked nose. My mum nagged me again to not come in the next day. I said to her, "Bukannya mama biasanya bilang, kalo dulu sih pas mama buka toko, paling sebel kalo pegawai bolos berhari2??" :P Dia nyengir and bilang, "Ya... Abis mama jg kesel" hauahahhahahah XD

The next day I called in sick and I went to different doctor this time. It starts to bugging me now coz last night I woke up every freaking hour!! (I checked my mobile every time I woke up). Luckily this time the doctor gave me antibiotics. He said I've got infection. Yeah of course, after coughing for whole day yesterday, surely it would have hurt something! And cough syrup. And this doctor told me to rest 2 more days yay! ^^

So I didn't go to work for 2 days, then I came in on Thu. I thought I felt alright, but as the day goes, I cough even more. Fri I came to work, but I coughed even worse and by 12, Water tap couldn't take it anymore.

Water tap: "You shouldn't have come today."
Me: "I was alright in the morning"
Water tap: "Oh.. yeah, must be the aircon. Just go home. Go to Lao-er and say you don't feel well and go home."
Me: "Oh? No, it's ok, it's just a cough"
Water tap: "No, I'm serious! There's nothing urgent to be done here anyway. Just go to him and ask."

I saw he was serious, so I told Creamer which he approved right away. I haven't even told him why and he ok it. I guess it's obvious then?

So yep, only came to work 1.5 days last week. On Thursday, they were talking about meeting on Friday. And I was like, "Oh? Already Fri? So fast!!" XD and everyone was like, "Of course it's fast! You didn't even come for the whole week! You only came today!".

XD